Monthly Archive: June 2013

Morning Ritual With Coffee: Soul Hungers

For those that are just joining my journey now, this series of posts are about the beauty of ceremony and ritual.  It is something that nourishes my spirit every day, and I want to share this with you. To catch up to this post you can read “The Beauty of Ceremony and Ritual” and “Healing Nature:  I gave up a pleasure cruise for this!”.

 Immanuel Kant had a steady and unwavering routine every day of his life. I’m not like Kant, except that I always begin my day with soul hungera quiet reflection. It is an essential for me. It’s a hunger that feeds my soul every day.  I have a list of them and make sure at least one of them are fed every day.  Anita Johnston calls it “Eating in the Light of the Moon.”

Do you know your hungers ? Your soul hungers?  How do you or can you make sure you feed them every day?

Maryanne Nicholls is a Toronto-based, certified Psychotherapist offering a balanced approach to mental health. Please visit www.thejoyofliving.co for information on her services, or contact her directly to find out how she can help you reclaim the joy of living.

Healing Nature: I gave up a Pleasure Cruise for this!

For those that are just joining my journey now, this series of posts are about the beauty of ceremony and ritual.  It is something that nourishes my spirit every day, and I want to share this with you. To catch up to this post you can read “The Beauty of Ceremony and Ritual”.

 Sitting, wet, freezing. Near Bancroft, in a tent, during the coldest spring week in at least 20 years. Here to spend time with myself and face some important truths. Chose this over a weekend of pleasure in hot and sunny climes. Wondering, “What was I thinking?” That night, I froze in my arctic weather sleeping bag, grateful only that I’d had the sense to pack a cot. During the week, I kept running into weather and dashed expectations. I wasn’t able to do what I’d planned so I read a lot the first 2 days. Then went in search of medicine items that I hadn’t planned on needing… all in the company of someone as unlike myself as night sky in northern ontariopossible. Together, once we decided to make the most of our situation, we accomplished more than either of us could have done singly. The moon and stars appeared my last night. Stayed up well into the morning, watching earthly magic happen. Nature touches our heart and soul.  I’ll go on that pleasure cruise next year and appreciate it all the more for my week in Bancroft.

Maryanne Nicholls is a Toronto-based, certified Psychotherapist offering a balanced approach to mental health. Please visit www.thejoyofliving.co for information on her services, or contact her directly to find out how she can help you reclaim the joy of living.

The Beauty of Ceremony and Ritual

The next 6 blogs are about how ceremony and ritual can beautify our lives.  It may not seem so at the time, but somehow our days and weeks feel so much more alive and balanced.  I want to share with you how I include ceremony and ritual in my daily life, and welcome you to share how you include it in your life.  It can be the simplest thing, like going to sleep with a feeling of gratitude.

beauty in ceremonyHow do you bring beauty into your life with ceremony and ritual?

Maryanne Nicholls is a Toronto-based, certified Psychotherapist offering a balanced approach to mental health. Please visit www.thejoyofliving.co for information on her services, or contact her directly to find out how she can help you reclaim the joy of living.

Do you have a relationship with your therapist?

When people think about therapists, the first image that comes to mind is of a patient lying on a couch while the therapist sits across from them doodling on a notepad and watching the clock. Too often, therapists are labelled as shrinks or analysts. chickentherapyhutUnfortunately, therapists are not usually associated with words like … guide or ally.

According to Wikipedia, psychotherapy is “a general term referring to therapeutic interaction or treatment contracted between a trained professional and a client, patient, family, couple, or group”. Therapeutic treatments for clients are usually in linked to mental disorders. Wikipedia defines mental disorders, using the medical model for psychotherapy, as a “psychological pattern or anomaly, potentially reflected in behavior, that is generally associated with distress or disability, and which is not considered part of normal development in a person’s culture”.

Many therapists don’t think of their clients as being “ill”, but as individuals who are stuck in life patterns that are no longer working. They need the eyes and ears of a trained professional to help them identify these patterns and help to change them. A good therapist will interact with his/her clients, builds relationships, and listens to their goals and dreams. This approach falls under the ‘relationship model’ because therapeutic treatment depends on the relationship that is created between the therapist and client.

Author and clinical psychologist, Michael Owen’s poignant description in his book The Maya Book of Life puts words to the experience of the psychotherapeutic process. “Psychotherapy is not about alleviating symptoms or becoming better adapted but rather about developing the capacity to suffer, experience, and enjoy truth – the truth about oneself and the truth about others. As a result, life gets better.”

Which psychotherapeutic approach appeals most to you? If you’ve ever gone to a therapist, how did it help you and what might you do differently in the future?

Maryanne Nicholls is a Toronto-based, certified Psychotherapist offering a balanced approach to mental health. Please visit www.thejoyofliving.co for information on her services, or contact her directly to find out how she can help you reclaim the joy of living.