For those that are just joining, my last post introduced the topic of drugs versus therapy. To catch up you can read “The soul of psychotherapy – is it in danger?”.
A good friend of mine, Betty (not her real name) found herself stressed during a particularly difficult time recently. She has a middle management and very demanding job, which she was able to do well most of the time. However, in less than one month, she was given a new project with an aggressive deadline, she also had a house fire and lost a third of her belongings, and discovered in the same time period that she was pregnant. That would be enough to make most of us over-stressed. But she was so busy coping that she didn’t actually take the time to notice it. It was her husband who got fed up with it and said he needed her to stop stressing.
That brought her up short, because she truly didn’t notice it. Why? After all, it was even more crucial she take care of herself physically now that a new life was growing inside her, and yet she hadn’t noticed. She decided to begin with her husband – what things had he noticed. He’d noticed that she couldn’t sit down, even for a few minutes – that she was always doing something. He also noticed that she had no patience for anything out of the ordinary, and was no longer able to deal well with surprises – something she was generally very able to deal with. There were more indicators, but Betty decided to use these three indicators as ways to track her own stress levels.
How can you discover you stress?
Maryanne Nicholls is a Toronto based, certified Psychotherapist offering a balanced approach to mental health. Please visit http://www.thejoyofliving.co for information on her services, or contact her directly to find out how she can help you reclaim the joy of living.