Monthly Archive: April 2014

Working Smart

 cat boss

Benjamin Franklin said to never mistake movement for action.

How often have I busied myself and ended up exhausted at day’s end with little to show for it.  I need to take a page from Randy Glasbergen’s cat boss – how utterly satisfying that would be!

On the same topic but from a different angle – one of George St. Piere’s teachers, John Dahaner said in “The Way of the Fight”:  If I asked you to run through a brick wall, it would be hard work, not smart work. It wouldn’t make you better.  Hard work doesn’t necessarily garner results, and hard, stupid work gives you negative results.

How can you work smart today?

Maryanne Nicholls is a Toronto based, certified Psychotherapist offering a balanced approach to mental health. Please visit http://www.thejoyofliving.co for information on her services, or contact her directly to find out how she can help you reclaim the joy of living.

Peaks and Valleys

I’m about to crack open a book called Peaks and Valleys by Spencer Johnson.  I don’t know if I’ll like it.  I do know that title spoke

The Peaks and Valleys of Ecuador

The Peaks and Valleys of Ecuador

to me and I very much want to like it.

I’ve just returned from three weeks in Ecuador with my partner.  Even though I took work with me, life for the most part was carefree and filled with lovely shared moments.  On my way back, I began to think of what was waiting for me; the decisions I knew I had to make.  I could feel myself begin to tense up.  By the time we had been home for less than 8 hours, I had a tension headache.

Tough decisions.  The thing about going out on one’s own is we learn often by trial and error.  We have to take risks, and for every risk that turns out well, several do not turn out so well.  Wasn’t it Thomas Edison who said that for every success there are a hundred failures?

Right now, I’m in a valley and I very much want to be on the top of a peak., and right now that peak looks a long way away  Maybe being in Ecuador with the cloud people set me up for this, but I don’t think so.  I knew before I left that I had some hard decisions to make.

So I’ll read this book with the intriguing title, and I’ll let you know about it next time.

Maryanne Nicholls is a Toronto based, certified Psychotherapist offering a balanced approach to mental health. Please visit http://www.thejoyofliving.co for information on her services, or contact her directly to find out how she can help you reclaim the joy of living.

 

Through Fresh Eyes

marie forleoA few weeks ago a friend introduced me to Marie Forleo – almost in passing.  She is taking an online coaching course with Marie, and I decided to check her out. For anyone interested in hearing a perspective from fresh eyes, check her out.  She isn’t saying anything you haven’t heard before, or haven’t told yourself, but she’s young and her outlook is fresh.
Yes, she’s young! You might ask yourself how could she know so much at her age? The answer is – you did too!  Did you keep a diary growing up?  I did, beginning when I went to university.  Those diary pages are gone now, but I remember browsing through them periodically over the years, in awe of what I’d say in them.  From my older perspective I couldn’t grasp how I’d put such profound words down.  Why?  Because I’d lived in between and my life had gone in a direction I hadn’t expected.  As a result, I knew what I’d put down at a much deeper level.
Marie, with her enthusiasm, can do this for you, and even offer you things you DIDN’T think of.  Here’s an example, using what I learned from Marie – and I quote:  “When you know you’re meant  to birth an idea into existence, take it from … yours truly: feeling like a failure often means you’re moments away from your biggest success.”
Does that sound familiar?  Is it inspiring?  Yes to both. How often have you felt, like I have,  you’d reached a dead end, very ready to call it quits, and knowing somewhere inside that what this really meant was an imminent breakthrough.  It might be a breakthrough in understanding a problem you’ve been working on, or a breakthrough in personal growth, or in connecting with your niece.  Isn’t that feeling very familiar to you?
Marie reminded me in that moment that this is a universal feeling and that I am not alone in feeling it.  That alone makes it worth connecting with her every week.
Look her up at www.marieforleo.com

Maryanne Nicholls is a Toronto based, certified Psychotherapist offering a balanced approach to mental health. Please visit http://www.thejoyofliving.co for information on her services, or contact her directly to find out how she can help you reclaim the joy of living.

Aging Gracefully – A Choice

life is a choice

I spoke last week about ageing gracefully and a little about meaning and purpose… and discipline. The week before that I talked about laughter. I talked about my grandmother as a person who aged gracefully. Not a lot of laughter (a little laughter); she was an immigrant, and like most immigrants, had little time for laughter. She certainly had meaning and purpose in her life, and she also had discipline.

I can’t think of a day when she wasn’t reliably where she had to be and said she would be. On time. No fuss or muss.

This is something I am still aspiring to. Seriously, on those days when my focus is on being where I am needed, on time with no fuss, those are my best days. For no apparent reason I feel great. It was a really great day!

So perhaps aging gracefully means focusing on those around me that I care about more than on myself – bringing laughter, meaning, purpose and the discipline I need to always make the truly bigger things in life my priority. What do you see in your life? What inspires you to age with grace?

Maryanne Nicholls is a Toronto based, certified Psychotherapist offering a balanced approach to mental health. Please visit http://www.thejoyofliving.co for information on her services, or contact her directly to find out how she can help you reclaim the joy of living.