If your mind is empty, it is always ready for anything, it is open to everything. In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s mind there are few. -Shunryu Suzuki
Last week I decided to wash windows. The windows in my place are the new kind that fold inward so that you can wash the outside from the inside. Clever.
But I wasn’t used to these windows, and assumed that they would stay up when I simply put them back – like the windows I’m used to. This assumption worked fine until the last set, where one of the windows didn’t stay put because, as it happened, the latch was stuck. The window fell and hit me hard. That window caused me a lot of pain, and may even have produced in me a mild concussion.
This may seem like a pretty mundane event – one we all encounter daily. And that’s my point. Had I approached these windows as something new – which they were – I would likely have saved myself grief.
When we’re relaxed and present, with no agenda going into something, then we have beginner’s mind. The next time you’re with a friend or loved one, try approaching them in this way, and see how that opens up new possibility for you.
Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable. -Mary Oliver
I first read of the 7 pillars of mindfulness in Jon Kabat-Zinn’s book on mindfulness Full Catastrophe Living. These pillars are Buddhist principles that help us be present and mindful in our everyday living. The 7 meditations I offer to anyone who signs up on my website www.thehjoyofliving.co are based on these, and I use them in my own meditation practice.
Maryanne Nicholls is a Registered Psychotherapist. To find out more, gain access to her weekly newsletter, meditations and programmes, sign up at www.thejoyofliving.co .