Challenging times

It’s impossible these days not to be impacted by the goings-on in the United States. American, Canadian, European, Middle-Eastern, Muslin, Jew, Christian, Agnostic, Atheist, women, the poor, refugees, gay people, indigenous people, the list is long. Some might say anyone who isn’t a straight white rich male – and many people who fit into this limited category have people they care about who don’t. In short, everyone is impacted and many are in turmoil.  Some call what’s currently happening in the United States a “Cold Civil War”, meaning that people aren’t shooting each other for the most part, but that there is a major uprising – in the speedy undoing of everything that was put in place over the past 8 years, and in the reciprocating demonstrations, law suits, speaking out, and affirmative actions that are happening just as speedily.  Some also say that it’s really up to the “sane Republicans” to end this growing chasm.  But even so, the rest of us need some way of sanely and effectively dealing with these challenging times.

Our American friends are hit especially hard by what’s currently happening in their country.  As my partner – who is American – said: I’m embarrassed because it goes counter to everything my nation stands for.

What can we do? For myself, I need to focus on things that restore my sense of empowerment. And I offer some suggestions to you along these lines.

  • Ground yourself. This is essential and also the essential first step. If you’re stressed, anxious, distracted or otherwise out of balance, you won’t be able to deal with things as they come up. So when you find yourself getting stressed, breathe deeply into your belly, focusing only on that for a number of breaths; you might want to sit somewhere and simply feel the ground under you. Do this as often as you need. You will know you’re grounded when you are able to bring your attention to what’s needed in the present moment with ease.
  • Physical self-care. If you’re grounded, only then is it possible to be successful in supporting yourself physically. Physical self-care includes sleeping, eating and exercising well. Without this, you will eventually wear yourself out.
  • Supportive resources. Make sure you have what you need to continue to support yourself both physically and emotionally.  Friends and colleagues who are able to listen and comment, who are willing to walk with you, often give us the energy boost we need to get going and keep going.
  • Be clear about what you want. If you remain grounded, healthy and supported, then you’re open and ready for any opportunity that comes up.  It’s critical that you pre-determine what you want so that you don’t end up spending your energy on something that doesn’t work and doesn’t empower.  For instance, I’m interested in supporting anything that brings real change – like naming and boycotting banks that support the pipeline companies wanting to dig up sacred land.
We are at our most powerful when we are grounded and present. When we feel powerful, challenging times are times we can meet successfully.

Michelle Obama – Lead by example with hope! Never fear!



Quote of the Week
Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free


At times we need more  – we know the logic, know what to do. And yet something is still blocking us.  As a registered psychotherapist and stress coach, I offer individual one-on-one consultations. For more information, visit my or contact me directly at


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