Letting go takes practice. It’s easy to let go of a thought or desire if it isn’t that strong or important. Not so easy when it is.
The cause you’ve worked for all your life. The son or daughter who wants to move to another continent. The issue at work that you fear might end your career. These are the kinds of things that keep us awake, and that can take up every free moment in our day.
And yet, it’s by hanging onto them that we have the best chance of losing them – the child or lover who can no longer handle our neediness of them; the cause that needs a new and fresh approach that you can’t bring yourself to embrace. The issue at work that makes you so stressed you can’t think straight and find yourself making big and bigger mistakes as a result.
Deep down, being unable to let go is about fearing to loose what is important to us. The problem is that fear changes us, so that what began as something beautiful turns by that refusal to let go into something toxic.
Let go. Spread the love.
I first read of the 7 pillars of mindfulness in Jon Kabat-Zinn’s book on mindfulness Full Catastrophe Living. These pillars are Buddhist principles that help us be present and mindful in our everyday living. The 7 meditations I offer to anyone who signs up on my website www.thehjoyofliving.co are based on these, and I use them in my own meditation practice.
Maryanne Nicholls is a Registered Psychotherapist. To find out more, gain access to her weekly newsletter, meditations and programmes, sign up at www.thejoyofliving.co .