“I don’t have time for this” is a refrain I heard often from my mother. Now I say it. I don’t have time for a lot of things, and it isn’t because I’m impatient. It’s because I try to fit too much into a day – like my mother did.
Some people are fantastic at calculating how much time something will take, but never those who never have enough time. Those are most of the people I know. We tend to underestimate everything – to such a degree that what we thought we could accomplish is hopelessly out of wack.
Why is this? Partly it’s because we are overly optimistic about our own abilities and the smooth running of the world. Partly because our hopes take over instead of our objectivity. Partly because we simply have unrealistic expectations about life, especially about ourselves. Most of us are very hard on ourselves – inside us is a little diabolic dictator who mercilessly berates us whenever we fall short of her or his demands.
That inner dictator is this way, possibly because she is fuelled by fear. Mine is. She shows up when I’m afraid I won’t be able to do what I promised; or when I’m afraid I’ll suck during a presentation. So many things – and whenever that fear sneaks in, so does my mini dictator.
Time isn’t on my side when I try to do too much – or so it seems. But when I stop to consider this a little deeper, I have to admit that the pain I go through whenever I’m driven like this is a strong motivator to stop doing it. If being driven gave me pleasure, I probably wouldn’t stop.
The truth is that I’m discovering that time is on my side: I always have the time I need to do things that are really important, as long as I pay attention to what’s really important.
Time, it turns out, is a choice – my choice.
Now I’d love to hear from you about your own experiences, knowledge, opinions. In the comments below, share one thing that you experienced as a mirror moment that changed your day, or even your life.
This newsletter is in three parts: the first part is my contribution; the second is a video I’ve found that relates to the topic in part 1; the third is a quote. I hope you enjoy the richness this brings to the topic of the week with all three parts.
Quote of the Week
Time is a created thing. To say ‘I don’t have time,’ is like saying, ‘I don’t want to.’
― Lao Tzu
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