I was wondering what to write about this week when I was reminded by Seth Godin about a particular self-sabotage at least half of us do – over and over: waiting for that magic moment when all our hard work will pay off.
As Seth says, this is a myth.
What really happens is we give it our best shot, every day. And then little by little, things change. We hear about the “big break”. That may sometimes happen – after all, people do win the lottery. But for most of those people who get the “big break”, if they aren’t ready for it, it actually breaks them. They don’t know how to deal with it. They aren’t ready for it. And so they over-indulge, or get taken advantage of, and eventually loose whatever advantage they had, sometimes ending up in situations that are harder than the one they started with.
The rest of us keep at it, every day, pursuing our dreams, trying things out, tweaking and trying again. Then moving on to the next challenge. There is no magic moment. Just an accumulation of small steps that lead to a big change, sometimes so gradually we might not notice.
Except that one morning, we wake up and feel fantastic. For no reason.
What comes first – happiness or success?
Quote of the Week
For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.
― Ralph Waldo Emerson
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