I was sitting one recent Sunday morning fretting over something I’ve been involved in, wondering – as I often do – about which possibilities were worth pursuing. Then, to give my brain a rest, I spent time puzzling over a Suduko game instead. In Suduko, the objective is to position numbers in such a way that they don’t repeat in any row, column, or square. It really soothes my mind when my mind is worked up. Each to their own!
My strategy when playing this game is to place possibilities in the top corners of individual squares, and certainties for that square in the middle. Inevitably, I would accidentally switch numbers, so that what should have been a 2 beside a 4, for instance, I’d write down as a 4 beside a 2. Then I’d spend time tracing back what I’d done to figure out where that happened.
That particular morning, I did something different. A very small change: I made the possibilities really tiny and the certainties really big. And for once, I didn’t do any accidental switcheroos. So simple a solution, and so powerful a result!
Then I wondered: How could this help me in other ways? You see, I spend much of my time musing over possibilities. In fact, I can get so caught up in them that they are as real as whatever is actual at the time.
What if, instead, I added a degree of separation between possibilities and actualities?
I’m going to try it out, and report back.
“Who you are tomorrow begins with what you do today.”
― Tim Fargo
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