In my program ‘Burning the Candle at Both Ends’ I discuss stress and feelings of anxiety and depression. I also help to cover anger issues. As we become stressed and overwhelmed, we can feel anxious, depressed, sad and angry all at once.
You can’t be in a state of anger at work. It is not good for you and it could result in creating a hostile work environment for others. So, how do you deal with anger at work or in any professional situation? I have a few tips for you!
1. Don’t say a word! I mean it. Thomas Jefferson famously said, “When angry, count 10, before you speak; if very angry, 100.” Sure, you are to become aware of your environment within the confines of Gestalt therapy, but you don’t have to react to it- at least you shouldn’t do this immediately.
2. Remove yourself from the situation. This can be hard to do at work, but try. If you need a break, see if you can be excused for one (or wait for your lunch) and then work on something other than ruminating on the issue at hand. This can include drawing, walk or finishing a Sudoku puzzle or crossword puzzle. Whatever you do, don’t gossip about what happened. Don’t even vent about it to a trusted co-worker. It will only recreate the feelings in an unhealthy way. You want to clear your mind and set outside of the situation before you appropriately address it.
3. It’s OK to be angry. Admit that you are then deal with it as calmly and reasonably as possible. People who are able to see their anger as anger are less likely to resort to aggression or violence, according to a study published in 2011 in the journal Emotion. Plus, if you admit you’re angry, you’re addressing the situation head-on and understanding how you feel in the present environment. You can then gain control and be proactive about the situation, not reactive!
Finally, check out my free 7-day meditation program. Yes, free. I am giving it away to help anyone and everyone who may have anger, anxiety or depression issues. It also help with work stress. You can access the program here: https://joyofliving.leadpages.net/7-day-meditation/