You deserve better. Believe it!


If you believe you deserve better, you will create better in yourself.”

This quote, attributed to Dr. Phil McGraw, might strike you as obvious. Or it might seem simplistic. Or pie-in-the-sky – a new age-ism that some people say to themselves in the mirror when they’re feeling especially bad.

In a way, all of those are true. And yet, even though you think you know and support yourself very well – no doubt you do a lot of the time – one day you discover – as I did – that not believing in yourself still keeps leading to self-sabotage, and even failure.

I think it’s a phrase that’s much easier to understand than to fully incorporate into your life.

The biggest way this gets into my face is when I’m about to advertise.  I admit that the thought of advertising makes me cringe inside. Part of this is my upbringing. Another part is my culture. But there is still a small part of me that feels – no matter what the evidence says to the contrary – that I don’t deserve better. That I don’t deserve to advertise my worth. That it’s somehow vulgar and all by itself makes me unworthy.

I compare myself to the worst kind of sales person I can think of instead of the best kind. Then – of course! – I feel crappy about it.

But I deserve better than this! So do you!

It’s not your brain that’s letting you down. It’s your spirit!

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