Have you got a dream? A big one, that your passionate about and that, deep down, you feel you might never realize?
It might be working every day on something you love. Or meaningfully contributing to a cause you’re passionate about. It might be becoming a mom or dad. Or owning your own home, mortgage-free.
Whatever it is, there’s one sure way of realizing it. Turtle steps.
That’s right! Turtle steps. Especially if it’s a big dream.
Turtle steps make it hard to procrastinate – and we are all procrastinators. You might believe that you’ve dreamed too big, that you somehow don’t deserve to realize your dream, that you’re not good enough, not disciplined enough. Not enough!
But the truth is you are enough. We are all procrastinators when we step into something new that we care about. It’s normal and natural. We want so much for the outcome to be a certain way, and there is no guarantee it will happen. So we get scared, then overwhelmed. Then we procrastinate.
That’s where turtle steps come in to save us. This term was coined by Martha Beck after she learned to successfully teach her young son how to do what she considered to be pretty simple things. They were – for her. But not for him. For him, the steps were too hard, and too overwhelming. Martha learned to make the steps smaller and smaller, until her son was able to do each one easily.
We can do the same. If you need to learn about social media (like I do), and it’s foreign to you (like it is to me!), then come up with a way to learn about it in small and easy steps. So easy you hardly notice. Like creating an account one day. Then browsing for 10 minutes the next. Then asking one or 2 people you know to “friend” you and beginning a conversation with them. Every day, or once a week, adding to your knowledge, understanding, and comfort using social media. Until one day, you realize that it’s no longer a problem. Something else is – the next thing on your path towards your dream.
There’s a parable about turtle steps – you might have heard it: the story about the turtle and the hare, with the moral being slow and steady always beats fast and furious.
If you’re worried about actualizing your dream, and want to make sure you realize it, then you can’t go wrong with turtle steps.
Take it from a hare.
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Quote of the Week
Turtle has just one plan at a time, and every cell buys into it. -Ted Kooser
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