A pet peeve of mine: ask for feedback and get praise for my good work and a list of typos and grammar changes but nothing about the material and how I’ve presented it. Does it interest them? If not, what might interest them instead? What was missing for them that they were expecting?
Sitting through that kind of feedback is disheartening, even if helpful, because it isn’t what I wanted or needed fundamentally.
What I do need is insight into possible personal blind spots. Some awareness of what I might be missing. I don’t fear criticism. What I fear is not hearing what I need to hear before I send what I’ve created off.
I remember a friend saying she couldn’t tell her co-worker something that might embarrass that person, until she figured out that by not saying something she was helping that person fail.
Anyone who is creative and has something to offer wants feedback that matters. There’s nothing worse than being told my new clothes are lovely when really I’m wearing nothing at all.
Quote of the Week
“Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.”
― Winston Churchill
The danger of silence
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