Some fortunate people have loving and mature parents, go to great schools, and get initiated into the adult world with the support of amazing mentors. Some – not all – of those lucky few make a terrific life for themselves and, hopefully, others.
The rest of us aren’t so fortunate. And yet, more of us end up succeeding in spite of the odds against us than anyone would expect.
But predictors of future success provide statistical odds only. The real predictor is you: Yourcommitment to your own future, your self-regard, and your ability to see what’s real and possible.
Mostly though, it’s your conviction: your conviction that what you seek is possible for you to achieve, and worth staying with. In the end, it might not turn out the way you imagined, but it will happen. That kind of stick-with-it-ness is sometimes called resilience, and sometimes called grit.
Angela Duckworth distinguishes resilience from grit (view the video below). She’s discovered that a key predictor to future success is grit. Grit is consistent effort, combined with passion, for a particular goal, that is strong enough to overcome obstacles or challenges that are in the way to the realization of that goal.
In other words, the goal has to be worthy to the person trying to achieve it. And the person trying to achieve it has to feel worthy of achieving that goal
A person with grit is in it for the long-term and knows that to achieve her goal involves a marathon, not a sprint.
So the bottom line is to hang in there, sometimes putting one foot in front of the other, and keep faith in yourself and your abilities.
The Power of Passion and Preservation
“…there are no shortcuts to excellence. Developing real expertise, figuring out really hard problems, it all takes time―longer than most people imagine….you’ve got to apply those skills and produce goods or services that are valuable to people….Grit is about working on something you care about so much that you’re willing to stay loyal to it…it’s doing what you love, but not just falling in love―staying in love.”
― Angela Duckworth
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