Holding on too tight: When to let go and thrive

I catch myself holding on too tight at times. Honestly, I don’t realize it until a friend mentions something, or after I let go and notice the difference. It’s always from some fear that takes me into holding on as if my life depended on it, because in the moment that is what it feels like.

Apparently, it comes from the time movies first started to be made, and actors had to be their own stunt men or women – when they might need to dangle from a bridge, or dangle from the side of a rail car, “for dear life”. In that case, it really was for dear life. In my case, it rarely is.

What am I holding onto? Usually some cherished belief or way of doing things that makes me feel safe and secure. For me, it’s most often around doing the right thing, or doing the respectable thing, or around what I expect from others. For you, it may holding on too tight to a close friend or family member.

Whatever the reason is that we find ourselves holding on too tight, if our lives won’t be in danger if we let go, well then, perhaps the thing that will help us live better is to let go, or at least loosen our grip.
Really hard to do, and well worth thinking about.

If you want to read more about letting go, here’s an earlier article on a related topic.

Quote of the Week

Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.”

Roy T. Bennett

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