A friend can’t seem to find her way to being what she’s always wanted to be – a program manager. Every time she lands a job, she’s fine until one of her bosses disagrees with her. When that happens, she spirals into self-doubt, ends up feeling a sense of deep hopelessness and misery, and goes to her doctor for more anti-anxiety meds.

My friend finally decided that the stress was too much, quit, and began pursuing jobs that wouldn’t stress her. That worked for about 2 years, until she found herself chronically bored and passionless.

Her dream of becoming a successful and respected program manager seemed impossible, not because she didn’t have the skills – she had both the skills and the intelligence – but because she didn’t know how to effectively deal with her own self-doubt.

A big, important dream may seem impossible at first. But don’t fail yourself by giving up too soon. If you’ve done your homework, and are realistic about your own abilities, then you will begin to find your way through. That first glimmer of hope – that moment when you manage to solve the first big seemingly impossible hurdle – will help you keep moving forward towards fulling that once impossible dream.

My friend eventually chose to give herself another go at program management, and this time confronted her own self-doubt when faced with an authority who disagreed with her. She discovered her self-authority in the process.

Grit: The power of passion and perseverance

Quote of the Week

So many dreams at first seem impossible. And then they seem improbable. And then when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.”

― Christopher Reeve


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