The title of this blog came from the quote below. I don’t know who specifically said it, other than that it’s a piece of wisdom from North American indigenous Elders.
And it’s just so darn appropriate for this day and age to take its message to heart.
You cannot think yourself into right living.
That sentence on its own is something I plan on having pasted on my bathroom mirror at eye level. Because deep down, I really do believe that I can think myself into living the way I want which, as far as I’m concerned, is “right living”. I do it all the time: whenever, for instance, I “decide” that I need to meet a self-imposed deadline that is actually impossible, then proceed to work 20-hour days trying to meet it. Or those times when I begin from a particular belief – say that this person should be trustworthy because of their position – thereby successfully blinding myself to anything they might do that contradicts my belief.
Or even more to the point, deciding that I “should” live in a certain way to be a good person, no matter what the actual circumstances are surrounding me.
You live yourself into right thinking.
What if, instead of deluding myself with my own beliefs, desires and needs, I beginwith where I’m at, and go from there? Instead of assuming a person is trustworthy, I connect with them, get to know them, and then decide. Or see what the day has to offer, rather than on what I want it to offer, allowing me to remain open to whatever comes.
Beginning with what the day – the situation – offers, connecting with it, being open to it.
When I think of living this way, I feel a great weight being lifted. It’s so straight-forward and uncomplicated.
It might lead to real happiness.
Want to be happier? Stay in the moment
Quote of the Week
You cannot think yourself into right living. You live yourself into right thinking.
-Native Elders (from Gloria Steinem’s autobiography My Life on the Road)
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