These days I hear and read and participate in pausing. I learnt it in Yoga, then in Mindfulness meditation. Pausing helps me take a breath before I leap into anything. It helps me gather my resources. To gain clarity. To do whatever I do with care.
Performance is the other side. Without performance, whatever I plan on leaping into, gathering my resources for, gaining clarity of mind over, or taking care in considering, will only ever remain in the world of possibility – unless I act. Perform.
I don’t mean perform in the sense of play-acting, but in the sense of actualizing – bringing into the moment whatever it is I want to do.
Shamanism sees these two states of being as the feminine and masculine – the receptive and active. They are said to be the two aspects of Spirit – pure possibility and the spark of creation. Both are essential to life and growth – and to good living.
Sometimes I use them in alignment with Nature, and sometimes I use them to avoid. For instance, when I suddenly want to clean out the closets instead of taking the time to think through a looming problem. Or when I circle around a problem for ever, deeply analyzing every possibility, never actually taking action. In both cases, I avoid dealing with what I need to deal with, and at the same time, lull myself out of acknowledging that for some reason, it scares me.
If I were, instead, to use my sudden enthusiasm for house-cleaning, or my compelling need to over-analyze as signs of avoidance – which they are – then I could turn what was once a barrier to life and joy into a tool.
So, what’s the perfect balance between pause and perform? One that provides solid grounding and the energy to act as needed. We’re in perfect balance on those days or in those moments when everything seems to flow. When there’s no resistance. Where we are open to whatever changes are needed and are able to make them. Effortlessly.
We’ve all had those moments.
Included is a video related to this topic from another perspective, and a quote that I hope you’ll enjoy.
Staying Grounded – Justin Timberlake – Separate Who You Are from What You Do
Quote of the Week
Your hand opens and closes, opens and closes. If it were always a fist or always stretched open, you would be paralysed. Your deepest presence is in every small contracting and expanding, the two as beautifully balanced and coordinated as birds’ wings. ― Rumi
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