Tag Archive: believe

I believe you

 

I believe you. A simple and clear phrase that is the difference between feeling included and seen, or if not said, excluded, invisible and alone.

I didn’t see you across the street. … I am so sorry that I let you down. … I tried my best. … I don’t know how I messed the dates up again. …

It may be a deliberate lie. More likely, it’s a truth for them, and if they’d known more or better they wouldn’t have to say what they’re saying. They are probably feeling miserable that they let you down, or let themselves down.

But, take their truth in. Accept it for what it is. Believe them.

And build on that.

The gospel of doubt

Quote of the Week 

Leaders start with the positive, always believing the best first.”
― Skip Prichard

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I believe you

 

I believe you. A simple and clear phrase that is the difference between feeling included and seen, or if not said, excluded, invisible and alone.

I didn’t see you across the street. … I am so sorry that I let you down. … I tried my best. … I don’t know how I messed the dates up again. …

It may be a deliberate lie. More likely, it’s a truth for them, and if they’d known more or better they wouldn’t have to say what they’re saying. They are probably feeling miserable that they let you down, or let themselves down.

But, take their truth in. Accept it for what it is. Believe them.

And build on that.

 

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The fine art of letting go, and what that really means

What does it really mean to hang onto things and people and situations? We hear a lot about the virtue of letting go, but how often do you see that happen?

Not often! Because it’s a really tough thing to do. Letting go pretty much always means letting go of a belief – that something or someone is so important to us that losing it would be a disaster.  This belief may be connected to similar childhood beliefs – may even be connected to events in childhood that are still painful.  If so, then letting go is far from easy.

And yet, there’s a saying I’ve heard that goes something like “you become what you fight”. If you’ve ever witnessed someone close to you who is afraid of losing something and won’t let go, you know the truth of this first hand. We end up being alone because we fought loneliness.

So, if not letting go really means losing what we love, then what does letting go really mean? What it means is freedom. Freedom to move on, to enjoy what we have with no expectations, and to look forward to new adventures around the corner.  It doesn’t mean we won’t have our loved ones near for many more years – in fact, that’s more likely if we’ve let go of our need for them to stay . What it means is that they, and we, have no obligations that unnecessarily tie us down.

And that tastes of freedom.

Now I’d love to hear from you about your own experiences, knowledge, opinions.  In the comments below, share one thing that you experienced as a mirror moment that changed your day, or even your life.

This newsletter is in three parts: the first part is my contribution; the second is a video I’ve found that relates to the topic in part 1; the third is a quote. I hope you enjoy the richness this brings to the topic of the week with all three parts.

Isaac Lidsky – Letting Go

Quote of the Week
Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it. ― Ann Landers

Announcements
At times we need more  – we know the logic, know what to do. And yet something is still blocking us. I offer both one-on-one consultations and coaching packages.  For more information, visit my website www.thejoyofliving.co/services-and-programs or contact me directly at maryanne@thejoyofliving.co