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Comparisons – Do I Measure Up?

Comparisons When I find myself comparing, I’m never in a good place.  Usually, I feel less than, miserable, a looser; and I’m subconsciously looking for external verification to justify my poor self-opinion.  Am I too fat? Too thin? Too inexperienced? Too heady? Not worldly enough? Not out-going enough?

Not enough.

When I’m comparing, I’m already miserable, and comparing will ensure that I stay that way. Since it keeps me miserable, is it ever a good thing to compare?

I don’t think so.  When I admire another’s accomplishments, I don’t find myself comparing what they’ve done to what I’ve done.  Instead, they inspire me and show me what’s possible. I’m hapy for them, and that happiness seeps into me.

Comparing, on the other hand, never feels good.

So with that in mind, here are 3 things you can do to counter comparing:

  1. Rather than compare, separating you from the other person, seek to connect with that person. Discover who they really are – what you genuinely like about them. When we get to know another person, they become real to us, and the need to compare begins to loose it’s focus and alure.
  2. Turn to gratitude. I was sitting in my living room one morning lamenting on the opportunities I’d missed. And then for no apparent reason, I asked myself how I’d feel about Maryanne’s list of complaints if I’d just arrived from India as an Untouchable woman. She’s laugh and remind me how lucky I really am. Perspective so oftem helps, and focusing on what I have instead of what I’m missing helps to provide that needed perspective.
  3. Practicer self-love. In truth, you are enough just as you are, right now. You are worthy of your own love and admiration. Gratitude inspires us to see this truth. Living the life you want depends on it.


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Thoughts to begin 2018 with

Last year at around this time I sent you some of my favorite quotes.  That was so well-received I thought I’d do it again this year.

Quotes inspire me. Whenever I’m in need of a spiritual or motivational boost, I’ll read through my library of quotes, always finding at least one that inspires me and helps me re-focus on something that lifts me. I hope these help you do the same.

Everybody needs to take some time, in some way, to quiet themselves and really listen to their heart. -Jack Kornfield

Personality … is an act of high courage flung in the face of life. -Carl Jung

The simple intention to rest, consistently applied, turns the valley of the shadow into sweet surrender. -Martha Beck

How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. -Anne Frank

The more you focus on the words that uplift you, the more you embody the ideas contained in those words. -Oprah

Best wishes to you and yours over the holidays!

Now I’d love to hear from you about your own experiences, knowledge, opinions.  In the comments below, share one thing that you experienced as a mirror moment that changed your day, or even your life.

This newsletter is in three parts: the first part is my contribution; the second is a video I’ve found that relates to the topic in part 1; the third is a quote. I hope you enjoy the richness this brings to the topic of the week with all three parts.

Jacqueline Novogratz – inspiring a life of immersionthoughts

Quote of the Week 

What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.

― Jane Goodall



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