I come up with blog ideas usually months in advance – I hear, read, or experience something that interests me and feel it might also interest my audience, setting up the title and overall subject-matter. Then the week prior, I write it.
That’s the truth. It’s also the truth that what I write about happens to us all. So, if you read something in my blog and feel it might be about you, it both is and isn’t: it is, because you have probably experienced something like it and I may have seen you recently; it isn’t, because I really did plan this a long while ago.
I hope that’s a relief – to know I honour privacy and that we are all in this together.
Nothing I’ve said so far is flattery. I haven’t hidden behind soothing words, or said something untrue to manipulate. I told the truth in a way that, I hope, feels as genuine as it is, and that feels like I’m interested in making a connection – which I am interested in (otherwise, why write weekly).
Some truths sting, but are worth saying.
I don’t trust you.
I don’t believe what you’re saying.
What you’re saying scares me.
This is where it helps to add a bit to that truth, because as it stands, it feels accusatory.
I don’t trust you because I don’t know you.
I don’t believe what you’re saying because I have facts that contradict it.
What you’re saying scares me because I don’t like that much change.
Adding the why that is about me says that it’s about me and not about you. Feels like it’s something worth pursuing when I hear that from another, and I want to know more.
Quote of the Week
“I hate to hear you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives.”
– Jane Austin, Persuasion
Truth telling in relationships
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