I was preparing for a talk on a difficult subject, and because I was nervous, started coming up with a bunch of worst-case what-ifs; so much so that I began to believe those were the only alternatives.
You can guess how that talk went: I was defensive, and worried – anticipating the worst. A great example of a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I’ve also experienced the other side of that same coin: preparing for a talk, assuming that my audience will know all the basics and I sail right into details. Nope. They knew nothing!
That switcheroo was easier, but honestly, my delivery took a while to ramp up.
Anticipation – leads to distress, pain, disappointment, worry and rumination. Not to mention distraction. Keeping myself open to working with whatever happens, on the other hand, leaves me free to connect with my audience in a genuine way.
Dan Gilbert – You are always changing