Have you ever wanted something so badly you’re prepared to do whatever it takes to get it? I have. Many, many times.
I don’t mean robbing a bank or selling your body. We all have limits, even with this. But at times I sometimes find I’m relying on others to help me out. Not in a good way!
A good way might be: doing some necessary work for what I want and getting duly compensated; or taking what I offer because they really like and want it.
A not-good way might be: doing something for me because I talked them into it and wore them down; or promised them something that wasn’t justified; or relied on some need they have to manipulate them into supporting me.
Those last examples are all co-dependent, and enmesh me and anyone who involves themselves in it. In the end, even if it works this time, I don’t feel so fantastic.
Well, I wanted something this badly a week ago, and asked somene I thought loved this sort of thing if they wanted to be a part of it. She said she did and I got going. But I was always uneasy: even though she said yes, my gut just didn’t believe it. What I’d done to prepare depended on her showing up, so I was stuck with it regardless.
Fortunately for me, I did something that attracted others – something new for me – because I wanted this to happen that badly. I found them.
Glory haleluyeh! I did it!
Next time, when I get that gut feeling, I’ll pay more attention to it, appreciating what I really know.
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