What most people want, when they come and see me as a therapist, is to feel better – less anxious, usually, about their future and about their lives. A person often comes thinking there is a particular problem that, if they could get a handle on that problem, everything would be alright.
I thought the same thing when I first went to a therapist! It didn’t take me long to realize that the problem I had – that single problem — was only the beginning. That problem, when solved, uncovered other, deeper problems that I now wanted to solve. And yes, those uncovered still others.
Then, after a few years of uncovering, my approach to these seeming problems began to change. I began to see them as interesting challenges. That change in approach, in itself, made it easier because it didn’t carry with it a judgment that I was somehow flawed, and that those flaws needed to be eradicated.
It’s been a few years now since I began this journey. What I now know for sure is that life is an adventure of discovering challenges, solving them, and moving to a new challenge.
For me, that’s what it means to be alive.
The meaning of life
Quote of the Week
“I find myself, at this time in my life, no less challenged, no less plagued, no less intrigued, by what I still don’t know.”
― Sidney Poitier
Maryanne Nicholls is a Registered Psychotherapist. To find out more, gain access to her weekly newsletter, meditations and programmes, sign up at www.thejoyofliving.co .