When a second opinion is worth it, and when it’s not

Buying a house, relocating to a new city or country, changing jobs, getting married, becoming a parent, leaving a relationship… all of these are potentially life-changing decisions.

They can stop us in our tracks, seizing the gears in our mind and making it seemingly impossible to move on.

Reviewing the pros and cons only help when there is a huge degree of separation between choices. Sometimes it’s worth seeking a second opinion, and sometimes it isn’t.

Second opinions are worthwhile when we don’t have the expertise needed to get clarity. Then getting a second opinion from a trusted expert is worth the cost. Experts can help fill in the gaps of our knowledge base.

Second opinions are not worth it when that’s all they are – opinions. Another person’s opinion is personal to them and their own circumstances, which can never be your own circumstances.  Then it’s better to forgo that second opinion, and instead trust your own self-knowledge base.

I think we all know that, and seek a friend’s opinion because we are unsure of ourselves, or lack self-confidence, or don’t want to do what we know deep down we must do. What is comforting and helpful in seeking friend’s opinions is it makes us feel less alone, even supported, in our decision-making process.

Big decisions are tough! Until you can feel good inside about your choice, it might be better to hold off a while before diving in.


Quote of the Week

I must have a prodigious amount of mind; it takes me as much as a week, sometimes, to make it up!
― Mark Twain


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