As a coach, I help people discover who they are meant to be. As a therapist, I help people rediscover their own power – the first step to that journey of self-discovery.
As a kid, I would dream for hours about what I wanted to be when I grew up – a ballerina? A nurse? A doctor? A teacher? A philosopher? I could never decide for sure, because once I committed to one role, I had to give up dreaming of any other role.
Or so I thought, but what was really happening for me was the fear of missing out. Before I could really settle on one life possibility, the thought of missing out on other possible opportunities would fill me with dread. And so I’d waffle, never fully committing to any one direction.
From research at Johns Hopkins, we now know that beginning from infancy, our random choices become our preferences. And those preferences get honed, refined, and increasingly detailed as we develop. If we happen to luck out – with perfect, or near perfect parents, or a great mentor – we have a chance of getting clear on our direction early in our lives.
For the rest of us, it’s more like a process of trial and error, of confusion, of taking wrong directions, and if we stick with it, finally landing with something that feeds our soul.
The real point is: that thing that feeds our soul, that special path we are meant to travel, is something we ourselves develop from the time we’re born to the present. It is our destiny because we have made it so.
Becoming who you are meant to be
Quote of the Week
““Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it;
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.
– Wolfgang von Goethe
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